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Chinese Dating – Three Things That Can Create Problems In Online Relationships

Chinese Dating – Three Things That Can Create Problems In Online Relationships

Dating a girl from an entirely different culture is not exactly as easy as taking a walk, and doing it online surely makes things even harder. As such western men intending to use Chinese dating websites to meet their ideal mate, need to be forewarned about the issues that can create problems in their relationships. Discussed below are three of the most prominent of these issues.
1. The Language Barrier: This is perhaps the biggest difficulty that men face while trying to initiate a strong and long lasting relationship with their Chinese dating partners. Although most dating websites provide the facility of language translators, they are no good at translating the essence and feelings of the people interacting online, which sometimes matters much more than the words. As such men seeking a serious relationship need to make sincere efforts to learn at least the basics of the language.
2. Difference In Expectations: For most men, who have never dated a Chinese female before, understanding the expectations of these oriental beauties can be really difficult. Even though Chinese females are extremely practical and simple, their expectations from their dating partners can be quite different and in some cases the exact opposite of what western women would want from their mate. This can be quite unsettling at least during the initial phases of the relationship.
3. No Common References: When men decide to date Chinese women, they are generally unaware of the importance of a common point of reference. As such they tend to feel extremely frustrated when they are not able to discuss their favorite music, shows or talk about the political or social issues of their nations or for that matter discuss their social life with the woman they are dating online. They constantly have to look for topics to discuss that will seem equally interesting to their Chinese dating partner without offending them or causing them distress in any manner.

Are you looking for a genuine website for dating Chinese girls online? www.OnlineChineseDating.com helps you find reliable dating sites by providing honest reviews about various online Chinese dating websites. Coco Chen writes articles with online dating tips for great dating experience.

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Dating Three To Find The One: Part One

Dating Three To Find The One: Part One

Love moderately: long love doth so;
Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.
~Shakespeare

When it comes to dating, the Bard got it right. Moderation is key. It keeps you from moving too quickly or too slowly when you’re getting to know new men and what they bring to your table. And the most powerful way to achieve moderation is by using the Dating Program of Three.

The Program of Three is exactly the opposite of the urban legend “three-date rule,” which dictates that you must decide by the third date if a guy is the potentially the One and have sex or lose him forever. On this dating program, you avoid that pressured decision and its aftermath: a Flame Out that usually kills the relationship. Instead you date three men at the same time without having sex with any of them. By not seeing any one man too often, you find the men who are really into you and who will stay the course. Plus, you break out of your prison of deadly dating patterns and maneuver more skillfully in the dating world. By following this program, you build your self-esteem and find men that are much more fulfilling.

Although the idea of finding, much less juggling, three guys may sound challenging — if not downright impossible! — let me reassure you: it won’t be once you begin using all the tools you’ll learn in this dating program.

Why It Works

There are sound biological reasons why the Dating Program of Three rocks!

First of all, it helps you avoid the number one mistake that single women make: the addictive moth-to-a-flame over-involvement with some new guy who is supposedly the “One,” which I call the Flame Out Deadly Dating Pattern. As Helen Fisher, the renowned anthropologist, describes in her fascinating book, Why We Love, romantic love is a real addiction. It is like shooting up cocaine or heroin, which means reason often goes out the window. When we “fall in love” our brains make large quantities of dopamine and norepinephrine, which also happens when you take speed! These brain chemicals create the excited, exhilarated and focused state that allows us to have eight-hour dates and remember every detail about what our new hottie did and said. These speed-like chemicals also can drive up our levels of testosterone, which increases sexual desire.

Second, when we fall in love, serotonin levels fall and resemble the levels found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorders. So we tend to ruminate, fantasize and obsess about our new (drug-like) boyfriends. The new love is in our thoughts all day and in our dreams at night. Your brain says, focus on him, focus on him, focus on him.

Once this process takes you over, you become like a craving coke addict. You lose touch with reality, seeing only the positives. You lose self-control. Instead you are locked on the target, the fix–hotwired and ready to do outrageous things, sometimes self-destructive things, whatever it takes to be with him. One look, one sweet word is all it takes. Even if you don’t really know him. Even if it is not in your best interests. And as you continue to spend more time together the addiction intensifies. You fall prey to:

…the heat of Love, the pulsing rush of Longing, the lover’s whisper,
irresistible–magic to make the sanest [wo]man go mad. ~Homer

If you move too quickly into the pulsing rush of love, you put yourself at risk for an agonizing withdrawal if this man rejects you. Then sleeplessness, crying jags, over- or under eating, obsessive and upsetting thoughts, all mess with your brain chemistry even further.

The Dating Program of Three safeguards you against all these dangers of love addiction. On this program you will see the new hottie less often and have a measured coming together. You will be less likely to lock on to him with a singular focus that puts you at risk. In this way you elegantly avoid getting physiologically and emotionally devastated if it turns out that he is a player or all wrong for you.

The Program of Three also stops you from having sex prematurely. Why is this so important? Simple biology. When you have sex with someone, your body drives up the levels of oxytocin both during the whole sexual act and after you leave the scene. Oxytocin, which has been called the cuddle, bonding, or tend-and-befriend hormone, creates a strong biological attachment. This means that your body may automatically start the attachment process with almost anyone you bed, whether or not you want to be in a relationship with him! Add that chemical to any dopamine surges and you’re desperately waiting for his text, email or phone call. Jumping into bed too soon means you open yourself to premature infatuation, dependency and a kind of pseudo-intimacy that almost always backfires. Then, caught in the chemical soup of dopamine and oxytocin, you will likely lose yourself.

Another benefit of the Program is that dating multiple men usually gets the guys’ juices flowing. Some men (especially achievers) are wired to compete and win in the courtship game, so competitiveness gets them aroused. When his reward (you) is not easily gained, his brain will pump out more and more of the rapturous chemical, dopamine. Extra dopamine intensifies his feelings of being swept away by love. As one love researcher puts it, “…those who want to trigger romance in a would-be lover might artfully create some mystery, barriers and uncertainty in the relationship.” When you are on the Dating Program of Three, you do not have to fake this quality of not being so available–the program automatically accomplishes this desirable state. As one of my Love in 90 students discovered, “Now I don’t have to pretend. I am hard to get.”

Dating three guys helps clarify what you want and need in a man, because you can easily and instantly compare and contrast. So for example, when Friday rolls around and ‘Sean’ is cheap and miserly, Saturday’s date with ‘Randy’ will more clearly showcase his giving nature. When you come from abundance in the land of men, you can give yourself many possibilities rather than just one.

The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car… a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little. ~Ben Sweetland

Program of Three dating is challenging, but it’s truly empowering. It allows you to be long-sighted and keep your eye on the prize: a lasting fulfilling relationship that’s just right for you. It helps you end your Deadly Dating Patterns, frees you from the “three-date rule,” and keeps you protected from all the scenarios designed to break your heart. Of course, there are definitely obstacles to creating a Program of Three, but I’ve helped thousands of women do this already, and you’re no different. You can do it, too!

Getting Started on the Dating Program of Three

I can hear you already. “Dr. Diana,” you might be thinking, “I’m still trying to find ONE man to date. How can I find three?” First of all, listen up, ladies: there are more than 41 million single men just in the U.S. right now and different ones are coming on the market all the time! And every year, there are new online dating sites that bring in whole new crops to choose from. There are men out there. No matter what your age, weight or “problem” is.

What if you have special challenges because you are African-American…over 45…a single mom… or so highly successful you scare men away? In my book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love I devote an entire chapter to this population group. In it, you’ll find the latest research that dispels many of the urban legends that we have about finding a lasting love relationship.

In fact, every student I ever had who was willing to consistently work the principles, no matter what her challenges or deadly dating patterns were, has been able to create a successful Dating Program of Three.

It’s not as hard as it seems. Drew, a 42-year old single executive with weight issues, was the highest bidder at a charity auction where a mentoring session with me over lunch was the prize. Here’s what she emailed me about a year later:

I particularly thought the point of ‘dating three guys at once’ was amusing at first, but then you know…. it worked. Even though at times I knew some guy wasn’t going to be the love of my life, it was still a diversion from getting involved with another guy too fast before I knew it was the right thing. I think this is the best advice ever and have passed it on to several of my friends. Last summer, I joined a large online dating site and ended up meeting a really nice guy, although at first not necessarily what I thought I was looking for. We get along great, have tons in common, and it’s by far the most mature and healthy relationship I think I have ever been in. We got engaged this past October while on vacation in Florence. He proposed in front of the Fountain of Neptune in the Piazza della Signoria. We are planning a wedding for next June on Martha’s Vineyard.

When you begin dating three men at once, you’re shifting the balance of power to be more equitable. Starting now, take a stand for yourself, a stand that says you deserve a great partner. Take your time, learn what is possible in a relationship, and start playing an active role in choosing who you’re with. Don’t wait to be chosen. Now, with all the online and offline possibilities you have an abundance of men at arm’s reach, you have the ability to pick and choose for yourself. In Dating Three to Find the One: Part II, we will detail the nitty-gritty of working the Program.

Dr. Diana Kirschner is a psychologist and love expert who has developed a unique approach that has helped thousands of single women get the love they want. Dr. Diana’s dating and relationship advice based on her Love in 90 Days courses and workshops have been featured on the Today Show, where she is a frequent guest, the Morning Show with Mike & Juliet, Montel Williams and Good Morning America. She is widely quoted as a love and relationship doctor commenting on dating and couples issues in the New York Times, USA Today, Time Magazine, The New York Post, The LA Times, Cosmopolitan, and People magazines and in numerous other on- and off-line publications. Her new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, summarizes all of Dr. Diana’s strategies and secrets for finding love that lasts.

Psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner, appeared on Oprah and is a frequent guest on the Today Show. For 25+ years she has helped thousands of single women find love. Her acclaimed new book is Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. For her etips, blog, dating articles, daily affirmations & discussion forum visit http://www.lovein90days.com

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Top three mistakes people make when applying for bad credit auto loans

Top three mistakes people make when applying for bad credit auto loans

Most of the consumers with bad credit do not even dare to think about buying a new car. They feel hapless and impaired when it comes to applying for bad credit auto loans. Today, getting an auto loan, even with seriously bad credit is no longer difficult. All you have to do is be extremely honest and fill in even the minutest details on the application form accurately. There are certain commonly made mistakes, which when avoided will prevent any further damage to your credit.

There are numerous lenders who consider bad credit auto loans to be a risky investment and therefore prefer not to indulge in it. Most of the credit challenged consumers often put an end to their dream of buying a new car because of the embarrassing rejections that they have often faced while applying for the car loans. You too may have dreamt of buying a car either for your personal comfort or for business purposes but, due to your adverse credit status, your dream never met the reality. But now is the time to live your dreams as it is no longer difficult to avail bad credit auto loans.

Mistakes when applying for bad credit car loans

In spite of an adverse credit history, you too can have the opportunity of buying your dream vehicle. All you have to do is cautiously avoid certain pitfalls which most of the bad credit auto loan consumers often make.

Providing inaccurate information

When applying for bad credit loan for used cars as well new cars, you have to be immensely honest in filling up the credit application form. You have to precisely fill the exact details in your bad credit auto loan application. Do not ever exaggerate your income and provide false and inaccurate information, as the lender will definitely verify your information before disbursements of any funds to you. Generally, the lenders who deal in bad credit auto loans thoroughly inspect and verify each and every aspects of the information provided in the application form and pass the loan only if they are completely satisfied. It is therefore wise not to risk your chances of approval by providing wrong information in the application form. So, while filling in the credit application forms, make sure that you have all the possible required documentations.

Buying a car with no extended warranty

Always avoid buying a bad credit auto loans vehicle without any extended warranty on it. In a craze to own a car, you buy one without any warranty, but the real problem arises when your car breaks down in the first year itself, thus leaving you helpless. It is therefore always better to confirm with your dealership about the extended warranty beforehand. Most of the dealers do provide warrant. In case if they don’t, you can even opt for the option of purchasing the warranty.

Purchasing the car you cannot afford

Most of the consumers with bad credit at times attempt to purchase too expensive car. Since you are already facing financial crisis and have a bad credit, you must avoid any attempts to ‘over purchase’. You are already in the state of rebuilding your credit status; you have to be smart enough to avoid any further damage to your credit. Besides, most of the lenders would not even approve your bad credit car loan, if you attempt to purchase a car that is difficult for you to afford.

In order to avoid further damages to your financial and credit card status, it is advisable that you carefully avoid these mistakes, which most of the bad credit auto loan consumers make, and successfully own a car.

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How To REALLY Use Google Part Three

How To REALLY Use Google Part Three

In Part One, we covered the basics of searching on Google.com and in Part Two we moved into more advanced search techniques. In today’s third installment we will peer into some ways of using Google you may have never thought of or knew existed.

DATE RANGES: You may limit your search to an exact date of a “range” of dates that a page was indexed by Google. To use Google’s “daterange” function, you will need to express your dates in “Julian” dates. This date format is express as an integer. To convert a common date into Julian format go to: http://www.24hourtranslations.co.uk/dates.htm

As an example, if I wanted to find pages (about a certain topic) indexed by Google during the month of May 2003, I would type in:

“spyware removal” daterange: 2452774-2452803

TYPES OF FILES: You can limit your Google search results to specific files ending in a particular extension (.doc, .txt, .rtf, .pdf etc…)

To find a file on the topic “spyware remover” in Adobe (.pdf) format you would type in: “spyware remover” filetype:pdf

You can exclude certain types of files from your search by doing a “negative” search and placing a “minus” ( – ) sign in front of the “filetype:”

ANCHOR TEXT SEARCHES: Allow you to just search the “anchor” text in web page link anchors. Link anchors are the words that appear between: anti-spyware software In this case it’s the phrase Anti-Spyware Software

PLAIN TEXT SEARCHES: By using Google’s “intext” search capabilities, you can search JUST the body text of web pages and not any links, urls or titles, just the body. Simply type:

intext:”spyware remover”

CACHE SEARCHING: This form of searching will only search for results on sites that are stored in Google’s “cache’ or memory. This sometimes can give you older versions of sites. Example:

cache: spyware.pcwash.com

LINK SEARCHES: Want to know how many and what sites have links back to your site? Just search for your domain preceded by “link:”

link: spyware.pcwash.com

INFO SEARCHING: Find out what information Google has stored about a particular web page or site by searching:

info: spyware.pcwash.com

GOOGLE’S PHONEBOOK: Yes, Google has a phenomenal phone book database allowing you to search for both residential and business phone numbers. You may use the following search orders:

FN or FI (first name or first initial), LN (last name), city
FN (FI), LN, state
FN (FI), LN, area code
FN (FI), LN, zip code
phone # including area code (ex: 111-222-3333)
LN, city, state
LN, zip code

To find the phone number of the Whitehouse you would search:

phonebook: whitehouse washington dc

To find the phone number of the John Smith in Anytown, NY you could search:

phonebook: john smith ny

or

phonebook: smith anytown ny

or

phonebook: j smith ny

STOCK SEARCHING: Google can generate results on just about any stock because they use the stock information from the Yahoo! finance pages. For example:

stocks: ebay

Phew! Now, this list isn’t even exhaustive, but it will give 99.99% of you enough information and insight to start REALLY tapping into the top ranked search engine in the world: Google.com Go have some fun!

Did you miss one of the previous search articles? Just go to: http://spyware.pcwash.com/articles_1.html

When not on his soapbox, Andrew Wroblewski is doing battle with the thousands of spyware programs that can affect you via his anti-spyware and spyware removalwebsite: http://spyware.pcwash.com where you can get a FREE spyware scan of your computer system.
Three Ways Drug Rehab and Detox Differ

Three Ways Drug Rehab and Detox Differ

The issues of drug abuse and addiction are something that touch more families in the UK than many of us know. Unfortunately, the UK has seen a significant rise in drug and alcohol use that has left us scrambling to provide the care people need to overcome addiction issues. Two of the options we offer are detox and rehab. Yet despite what you may think, the two options are different.

In the simplest terms, detox is a standalone treatment option designed to break the physical addiction to a specific substance. In most cases, it can be accomplished in about seven days. Rehab is different in that it deals with the body and the mind. Rehab does include detox as part of an overall programme, but the psychotherapeutic treatments involved go above and beyond physical addiction.

Here are three ways drug rehab and detox is decidedly different:

1. Short-Term Versus Long-Term

The detox process is a very short-term strategy meant to deal with physical addiction. Because it can be completed in about a week, some drug abusers and addicts prefer to go that route in order to minimise the disruption of treatment. They can schedule a week off from work, attend detox, and get back to work the following week.

Rehab is a long-term strategy that requires a greater time commitment. The average programme offered by drug rehab clinics in Europe takes between 4 and 12 weeks to complete. After that, recovering drug abusers will spend anywhere from three to 12 months receiving aftercare support services.

Despite the time commitment involved, comprehensive drug rehab usually achieves better results than detox alone. Complete rehab deals with the individual as a whole person – body, mind, and spirit – rather than just as a physical creature.

2. Long-Term Goals

The differences in long-term goals are significant between the two therapies. Where detox is concerned, no clear long-term goal exists because the point is to simply get the user to stop taking drugs. However, detox does nothing to prevent relapse in the future. That is why so many drug addicts in the UK go through detox numerous times without an actual life change.

The long-term goal of rehab is one of preventing relapse by teaching the drug user how to live life to its fullest without using drugs. A rehab clinic that is successfully doing its job does not ever want to see a client a second time – unless it is because the recovering drug addict has returned to help others.

3. Sources of Treatment

Anyone in need of drug detox in the UK can access it free of charge from the NHS. Detox can be accessed on an inpatient, outpatient, or home basis, depending on individual circumstances. However, the NHS does not offer comprehensive drug rehab programmes of its own.

Drug rehab is provided by private clinics, drug and alcohol charities, and local support group organisations. The NHS can refer individuals to these other programmes, and they often do following the completion of detox. The best source of comprehensive drug rehab is a private clinics specialising in such programmes.

It is true that some people can fully recover from drug abuse and addiction by just attending detox. Nevertheless, they are the exception, not the rule. Most chronic addicts need a comprehensive rehab programme provided by a qualified organisation. That is often the only way to fully recover.

In this article author writes about Rehab Clinic. The long-term goal of rehab is one of preventing relapse by teaching the drug rehab clinics user how to live life to its fullest without using drugs.